A wedding takes a lot of time, attention to detail and money to plan. How large do the bride and groom want their party? Or for most, how much can they afford to spend accommodating their party members? Some brides have two or three bridesmaids; others? Five or more. I know of one bride who had eight bridesmaids. This wasn’t including her Maid of Honor. Then, there’s the food, flowers, guest list, wedding shower, rehearsal dinner and so many other minute details they must consider.
One bride though, included a woman in her party close to her heart, someone, many wouldn’t perhaps consider inviting to stand beside her. Not because she wasn’t a good woman, but she was a rather untraditional choice.
Amanda Scott doesn’t care about tradition. She wanted her grandmother, 92-year-old Mary Smith to be in her bridal party. scott explains why: “It might be a bit untraditional, but Granny is my best friend!” Scott, 24, tells PEOPLE. “She’s the closest person to me and the person I spend the most time with, so my wedding wouldn’t have been complete without her as a bridesmaid.”
For the big day, Grandma Mary wore a beautiful white eyelet blouse, jean skirt and cowboy boots for the occasion. According to Scott, she looked “absolutely stunning. “She was so perfect.”
Scott married Brett Murdough, her boyfriend of five years. They were wed at her home in St. Catharines, Ontario.
Smith praised her granddaughter’s wedding ceremony to her 22-year-old husband: “It was so lovely,” Smith tells PEOPLE of the outdoor wedding. “I love Amanda very much, and I was honored to be a part of the wedding, I’ll cherish the moment forever.”
For Scott, she had her wedding party sorted out. Having Smith join wasn’t in her plans at first. But as she said, something didn’t feel right: “It wasn’t complete,” she says. “I thought, ‘I need to ask Granny!’ Just because she’s old, doesn’t mean she can’t be in the wedding party.
“It’s not conventional, but why not!”
In the months that led up to her nuptials, Scott approached Smith. Her grandmother’s reaction was priceless: “I said, ‘I want to add a bridesmaid to the wedding party, someone special, how about you!’ ” says Scott, a piano, and guitar teacher. “She said, ‘You don’t mean that, I’ve never heard of a 92-year-old bridesmaid!’ She’s special and plus she talks a lot about being in wedding parties when she was younger, so I knew it would mean a lot to her.
“She cried and said, ‘I can’t believe I’m 92 and going to be in a wedding!’ ”
Smith added: “But then I realized age doesn’t matter. I was delighted when Amanda asked me because we are great friends.”
Smith is the mother of Scott’s stepmother. Despite being unrelated by blood, the two have always shared a close bond: “Even though we’re not blood-related, we’re family, I live about 15 minutes away from Granny and see her once a week,” says Scott. “She lost her husband seven years ago and lived on her own but is very independent.”
Despite being on her own, Smith remains active. She swims a mile each week, enjoys line-dancing and golfing with friends: “Age doesn’t matter,” she says. “And it didn’t matter for the wedding either!”
Smith helped the bride design her wedding veil. Scott praised her grannie for her help both before and during the wedding: “She donated all the materials to make the veil,” says Scott. “We made it from scraps of lace and beads from bridesmaid dresses she had worn in the past, so it was very meaningful.”
Smith described how touching and significant it was for her to stand beside her granddaughter while she spoke her vows: “It was just a beautiful moment,” says Smith. “I love Brett, and I think they are great together.
“I’ll always remember that moment.”
Weddings are celebrations meant to be remembered and cherished. Not just for what they signify, but for who take part. How lovely that Scot chose well for her wedding party.